Forgiveness is one of those experiences that you participate in as a receiver and as a giver. If you have one without the other than it just doesn't feel right. With all the talk in the circles of the truth and reconciliation meetings that have taken place, and all the recommendations that came forth, forgiveness must play a vital role in that process.

Survivors told their stories, truth telling took place and talk of healing was central to those talks. Yet, if forgiveness from both sides of the fence does not take place, then our hearts will never truly heal. Then when we look at our live...